Do things happen for a reason!!!

As some of you may know I had a very tough weekend due to a hot cup of coffee and very active toddler. As a parent, you will automatically blame yourself and think of other ways to protect our children. That is exactly what my husband and I are doing. We tried our best to child proof our living room for our daughter to play safely, but accidents happen!!! Do you just take care of the current situation and leave as it is and move on with your life as if nothing had happen or do you take things to the extreme and panic and try to change things around the house (or I should say around the apartment) to keep my child safe??? It is really hard when you live in a small place, but I don't think this is the issue. I have heard from many parents when I was pregnant that I should rest now, because once a baby is born there is no rest and there is no stop to worry until the day I die. It make sense because even when we are adults our parents worry about us and so we do the same thing with our children. In fact I do worry not only about my daughter but about my mother too.



Since I am the kind of a person who believes that things happen for a reason, I can't stop thinking about what happen to my daughter!!! I have always thought about taking my daughter when she gets a bit older to places like St. Jude hospital around Christmas and the holidays to see other children who are less fortunate than her. Those who spend most of their precious little lives in medical care. I want her to be sympathetic and kind towards human in general. I want her to know that life can be tough sometimes. So may be what happened had happened so that my daughter knows that life doesn't have any guarantees and we just have to take it one day a time doing the best we can do for our families, friends and society.

My daughter's eating habits

hhhhhm, I don't know where to start. I know that my daughter is a "carbon copy" (my cousin's first impression when she saw her) of her dad, but I hate to see her taking after his eating habits. I don't whether to blame him for that or I am not doing the right thing as a mother. Today for instance, I had to trick her by mixing ice cream with some fruit to eat her fruit. She is turning to a sweetholic. It is really bothering me and I don't know what to do about it. I am so looking forward to the summer. I wont have school and I will have more free time to pay attention to her. I know I am going to go through a battle not only with my husband who constantly brings sweet stuff to home, but also with my mother who believe that she needs sweet stuff. Well I need to change my eating habit in terms of coffee and tea. I think we both ought to be on healthier diet.

wish me luck!!

Work + family = Mom

Now that we are about to celebrate mother's day, I have to talk about how hard most moms work in this country. My mother, who was a teacher and have worked most of her life and raised me and took care of most of the household matters is actually angry how a developed country like US makes women work so hard. I have met so many women in my previous job who are single women. I have heard all of their stories and struggle to make a decent living while trying to maintain their families. WHY? WHY women can't have more PAID time out of work (and NOT WORRIED about losing their jobs later) to stay with their kids for a while? Do you know when I attended some birth classes at Verdugo Hills Hospitals which basically covers part of Glendale area, Montrose, La Canada, and La Crescenta that the average age of pregnant women at this hospital is 35 year old. This is almost the cut of line between having a normal pregnancy and a pregnancy with possible risks. These women end up having more tests or even more ultra sounds and stuff like that to make sure that the baby is OK. Why? Why wait so long to have a child when the couple have been together or married for many years. Why? when I asked some women (including myself) I found the answer is to hard to raise a child without a stable job, stable pay, decent home ....etc.

All this make me think how much women sacrifice to either avoid having children to be able to manage their career requirements or they settle for much less than men in terms of having their dream jobs.

So have you ever thought of your role as a woman in this society? Do you choose to be stay home mom, mom + work, or just a career.

In my opinion, women always sacrifice not matter what the choose. despite the fact that men make more money and have more political power in this world, I think women's role is much more important, because MOMS are the ones who always take upon the responsibly to care for their children and accordingly they are the ones who help shaping our society and our world.

Don't you think so!!!!